You'd think I'd know that. But I swear I just keep setting myself up for disappointment over and over again. You'd think that I'd know by now that this person is highly unlikely to follow through on things they say they'll do. Or at least things they agree to do in regards to me. Yet I continue to keep trying. Why can't I just let some things alone when I know I'll just be disappointed yet again? Must I continue to give people the benefit off the doubt just to have it blow up in my face over and over again? Some days I don't know why I do such things. Sometimes I think that it would be easier if I didn't care about people or things at all. Because when they keep disappointing you over and over again, it's the worst feeling ever. I just wish that I could convince myself to stop trying. But I've always been a hoper and a dreamer. I've always expected people to be the best they can, without forcing them to be. Yet I can't seem to make myself stop hoping they will rise up to the challenge. As often as I keep having glaring facts and such that I should give up on certain things, I can't seem to let myself do so. How do you give up on a someone? Even though they let you down all the time. Even though at this point, you should have given up on them ages ago because anyone else in this situation would have. How do you stop trying to get their approval when they hardly spared you a thought in a good long while? Or at least, you don't think they have because wouldn't they have told you? Or tried to get in contact with you rather than you being the only one trying all the time.
How do you have a maintain a good relationship with someone when it feels like they've stopped trying? Or that they think it'll still be exactly the same as it was the last time they were there. Don't people realize that someone can only try so hard for so long before they just can't keep trying? And how do you tell that person exactly how you're feeling when it seems all things you've been trying to say falls on deaf ears or goes unanswered?
Some days I just don't know any more.
Sunday, January 13, 2013
Monday, November 19, 2012
Job Search Madness
So I have this employment class I have to attend due some Social Services crap, and it's been taking up all my time lately. Don't get me wrong, the idea of the class is great for people who need it. But MAKING people have to take the class is kinda dumb in my opinion. We don't DO anything other than sit there and have nice little discussion about stuff that can help people find a job. This would be all fine and dandy if I hadn't had a class in high school that went over the exact same stuff. I haven't learned ANYTHING new since I started this class last Monday.
If that wasn't bad enough, I also still have to deal with some of the social services people. And let me tell you, I haven't ever met any other people as miserable and rude and lazy as I have met working at the Social Services office in my county. Yes, there are a few people who actually do their jobs and I do get to deal with some of them. But I also have to deal with the extremely rude nasty ones as well. I'm sorry, but if your job is to help people get the help they need, you should at least be polite and not make them feel any worse about the fact that they have to ask for your help. You also shouldn't treat the people like they're less than you are because you have a job. If the job market in this country didn't suck so bad then less people would have to even be in that office.
I'm just getting so sick of having to deal with them. I do my best to try to do what they want and tell me to do, but when they keep changing it or deciding that doing something the exact way they told us to do stuff isn't good enough, is just frickin ridiculous.
And another thing, half the time they make concessions for the fact that we have a child, but then the other half the time, they say we have to figure out how to make things work even though we have a kid. You can't have it both ways, either you understand and work with people with kids, or you don't. And you shouldn't make both parents work if the only reason they even need assistance is because one parent is looking for a job while the other stays home. It's okay for a parent to take care of their own child you know. I'd rather not have my son constantly looking for both of us when we have to be gone. I'd much rather he be able to have one parent with him most of the time.
If that wasn't bad enough, I also still have to deal with some of the social services people. And let me tell you, I haven't ever met any other people as miserable and rude and lazy as I have met working at the Social Services office in my county. Yes, there are a few people who actually do their jobs and I do get to deal with some of them. But I also have to deal with the extremely rude nasty ones as well. I'm sorry, but if your job is to help people get the help they need, you should at least be polite and not make them feel any worse about the fact that they have to ask for your help. You also shouldn't treat the people like they're less than you are because you have a job. If the job market in this country didn't suck so bad then less people would have to even be in that office.
I'm just getting so sick of having to deal with them. I do my best to try to do what they want and tell me to do, but when they keep changing it or deciding that doing something the exact way they told us to do stuff isn't good enough, is just frickin ridiculous.
And another thing, half the time they make concessions for the fact that we have a child, but then the other half the time, they say we have to figure out how to make things work even though we have a kid. You can't have it both ways, either you understand and work with people with kids, or you don't. And you shouldn't make both parents work if the only reason they even need assistance is because one parent is looking for a job while the other stays home. It's okay for a parent to take care of their own child you know. I'd rather not have my son constantly looking for both of us when we have to be gone. I'd much rather he be able to have one parent with him most of the time.
Thursday, October 25, 2012
I may have posted this on Facebook, but I want to elaborate on it.
I am not liking this upcoming election. I wish that third parties actually would make it, but that rarely happens. And I do not like either of the two main candidates. I shouldn't have to feel like I'm choosing between the lesser of two evils. I should fully support the person I'm voting for and feel like they will do well for this country. And not get stopped by Congress at every turn either. I'm just so sick of these people who control our freedoms putting their freedom and their wealth and their specific agendas before the well-being of the entire US population. Something really needs to change, but I'm not sure who is going to do that and be able to make it stick.
We need someone who is willing to put aside their wealth and freedoms so that our country can be saved. It's falling apart with how things are now. I almost wish we would have a complete overhaul of Congress too while we're at it. Get rid of those who don't have the best interests of the country as their driving motivation. Maybe only let those who don't lie and manipulate things to get what they want in. It's a sad day when we are proclaimed to be one of the "free-est" countries in the world when really we're giving up freedoms left and right.
We need someone who is willing to put aside their wealth and freedoms so that our country can be saved. It's falling apart with how things are now. I almost wish we would have a complete overhaul of Congress too while we're at it. Get rid of those who don't have the best interests of the country as their driving motivation. Maybe only let those who don't lie and manipulate things to get what they want in. It's a sad day when we are proclaimed to be one of the "free-est" countries in the world when really we're giving up freedoms left and right.
Friday, October 19, 2012
Super WHY
I have quite a few issues with this show. The whole point of the show is for the kids to get answers to their problems from books. Well, it would be a great idea IF the questions that the kids needed help with weren't questions that they would already know the answer to if their parents had been teaching them well. "My friends are sad because I have apples and I don't want to give any away, what should I do?" "The answer is: share!" I kid you not, that's an episode. It wasn't a case of they were just being selfish, oh no, that would be acceptable. No, she really didn't know. And a good majority of the "Super big problems" are really things that kids should already know.
Another minor sort of thing that bugs me. The main character is named Wyatt, so that's why he's Super Why... Really, a most terrible name. But there's more to Wyatt that bugs me. Every one of the other characters are either the fairy tale character themselves OR they're the child of one of them, but not Wyatt, oh no. He's just the much younger brother of Jack from Jack and the Beanstalk. Yet he gets to lead Red Riding Hood, the son of one of the The Three Little Pigs, the daughter of the Princess from the Princess and the Pea, and in newer episodes his dog.... I don't understand the logic behind this.. It makes no sense.
Really, this show is like a Canadian less annoying Dora the Explorer.
Another minor sort of thing that bugs me. The main character is named Wyatt, so that's why he's Super Why... Really, a most terrible name. But there's more to Wyatt that bugs me. Every one of the other characters are either the fairy tale character themselves OR they're the child of one of them, but not Wyatt, oh no. He's just the much younger brother of Jack from Jack and the Beanstalk. Yet he gets to lead Red Riding Hood, the son of one of the The Three Little Pigs, the daughter of the Princess from the Princess and the Pea, and in newer episodes his dog.... I don't understand the logic behind this.. It makes no sense.
Really, this show is like a Canadian less annoying Dora the Explorer.
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Clifford the Big Red Dog
One of the first things that bugs me about Clifford are some of the characters on the show. There's this girl Jetta and her dog Mack. And they are not nice at all. They are rather snooty and can't stand when anyone has more attention than they do. Everyone knows this about them, yet everyone is still friends with them. What is this show teaching children? Is it teaching them that you can be a complete and total brat and rude to other people and everyone will still like you? Because that's what it feels like to me. Almost every single episode they are in, they are constantly tearing someone down, and even though they get called out on it, everyone is all, "Oh it's okay. You learned your lesson, let's play." and then they do the same thing the next episode. If kids did this in the real world, they wouldn't have any friends after the third or fourth time they did such things. I mean really, who wants to be friends with someone who is constantly making you feel or look bad? I don't nor do I want any child to have to go through that.
Another thing about Jetta and Mack that bugs me is the fact that they seem to be much better off than any of the other characters. I'm not upset that they appear to be rich, it's the fact that they are the stereotypical sort of rich. Not all people who are well off are snooty mean people. Why can't there be more characters that are well off and nice? It does happen. Stop perpetuating this idea that if you have money, you must be a terrible person. It's not always the case.
At the moment, this is all I can think about for Clifford, but I know there are more things that bug me.
The next few blog posts will be...
My two year old watches a lot of PBS shows and I usually end up watching with him.I have noticed a few things about certain shows that really irk me. So here are some of the things that bug me. So the next few blog posts will address each show and what bugs me about them.
So enjoy :)
So enjoy :)
Sunday, October 7, 2012
I'm just going to say it..
I really love shows like Project Runway and America's Next Top Model. And I'm not entirely sure why. I think it has to do with the fact that they make/wear these great clothes and do snazzy things with hair and makeup. There's something about watching people make clothes or take great pictures that is purely magical. It almost makes me want to learn how to do that myself.
If I were to design clothes, I would purposefully design for plus-sized people. And there's a very good reason why. I'm so annoyed with the fact that as a plus-sized woman most of the clothes I can find in my size are not flattering at all, or look relatively the same. And I don't think that's fair to the people who can't help their size. I'm not talking about those who got that way because of unhealthy diets and/or unhealthy lifestyles, those people could change it. No, I mean those people who are unable to lose weight no matter what they do. Everyone has the right to look good in the clothes they have. And they also shouldn't have to pay extra for it. So not only would I design clothes that looked good, they would cost effective too. Where you don't have to spend $100 on a single outfit. Or you don't have to go out of your way to go to a store that carries any clothes that fit you.
I also wish that in modeling when they say plus-size model, she actually is plus-sized rather than just about a size 10 or whatever the size is. If there were more plus-sized models, there would be more chances to model the good looking plus-sized clothes, am I right?
Curves are healthy too you know. And just as beautiful. Besides, size and attractiveness will get you so far, it's who you are and how you treat people that will get you anywhere you want to be. Or at least, it should be.
If I were to design clothes, I would purposefully design for plus-sized people. And there's a very good reason why. I'm so annoyed with the fact that as a plus-sized woman most of the clothes I can find in my size are not flattering at all, or look relatively the same. And I don't think that's fair to the people who can't help their size. I'm not talking about those who got that way because of unhealthy diets and/or unhealthy lifestyles, those people could change it. No, I mean those people who are unable to lose weight no matter what they do. Everyone has the right to look good in the clothes they have. And they also shouldn't have to pay extra for it. So not only would I design clothes that looked good, they would cost effective too. Where you don't have to spend $100 on a single outfit. Or you don't have to go out of your way to go to a store that carries any clothes that fit you.
I also wish that in modeling when they say plus-size model, she actually is plus-sized rather than just about a size 10 or whatever the size is. If there were more plus-sized models, there would be more chances to model the good looking plus-sized clothes, am I right?
Curves are healthy too you know. And just as beautiful. Besides, size and attractiveness will get you so far, it's who you are and how you treat people that will get you anywhere you want to be. Or at least, it should be.
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